Know your true worth

The way to bullet proof yourself and be invulnerable to attacks from others is to truly know yourself. When people insult you, when they put you down, when they try to put you in what they perceive to be your place, when you know your real true self, your real true power, your real true authenticity, then what can they do to diminish that? When you know your truth and your self-worth, then anything anybody says to try and diminish that will be pointless. Let it be energy they expend. Don’t let yourself be depleted by their attacks.

And what do I mean by “attacks?” I mean the mean-spirited words they throw at you to keep you down. Somehow, to some people, keeping you from feeling good about who you are, about what your power is and what your accomplishments are, they themselves are elevated. They see you as the competition for some prize or some victory that exists only in their own mind.

But you’re not trying to compete. You’re just doing your own thing, living your own life, pursuing your own talents, ambitions and passions. They see you doing this and their egos tell them that they themselves are lesser somehow because they don’t appreciate their own abilities or feel that other people, maybe even notice or give them credit for what they want to be seen for. So to level the playing field to feel adequate, what do they do? They insult you. They find fault in even the slightest thing they don’t like. They twist your words into something you didn’t mean and throw them back at you.

If you bring up something they did, they will immediately, without even a pause to think it through, say, ‘Well you…” and tell you something you did as if there is no value in knowing the greater lesson to be learned from anything you had to say about them. Their egos tell them that, no! There’s nothing wrong with me! You’re the one with the problem!

These people may even go so far as to tell you that you are not worthy of an apology should you have the audacity to suggest you should have one. They may even say, “Frankly, you’re not worthy of an apology!” Now, why would anybody treat you or anybody that way? Why would they say mean and hurtful things that are not justified and not warranted? Only because they have not mastered their egos yet.

For they themselves to feel worthy, they must make you feel unworthy. It is a very small, very immature, and very unevolved and unenlightened view of things. They feel it is a competition of some kind that either they can win, or you will. So they attack you to keep a competitive edge. But that is not how you see it at all.

You see yourself living your life and following your dreams and passions, and everybody else, including them, as doing the same. You have yours. They have theirs. Everybody has their own, so why compete? You can zoom out and see their actions against you from a wide perspective, how their ego and their jealousy for your success and your confidence is motivating this behavior and not let it bother you. You see it for what it really is. This makes you bulletproof and invulnerable because you are sure enough of yourself because you know your abilities and worth, and nobody can diminish it or take any of it away from you.

When you feel attacked by a narcissist, remember this. They are only doing this to make you feel small to elevate their own position in an imagined competition that you did not ask for. Keep your own self-worth in mind, and deflect these attacks. –Jim Larsen

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