Apologies Matter More Than You May Realize

When you apologize to somebody for some wrong or for some upsetting thing you perpetrated against them, you send the message that they are worthwhile and that their feelings are valid and worthy of consideration. But when you do not apologize, or you straight up tell somebody that they are not worthy of an apology, you are sending them the message that their feelings mean nothing, and therefore they as human beings have little or no value to you.

If you treat somebody this way who does not have a strong sense of their self, you may damage their self esteem and make them doubt their selves even further. This may cause them to never fully achieve their full potential. This is a narcissistic thing to do- to tell somebody they are not worthy of an apology, If somebody says this to you or treats you as though this is what they think of you, take inventory of your own self-worth and do not let the opinion of this person taint what you know about yourself- that you are a decent person with an abundance of positive qualities. This attitude from them is a sign of their own insecurities and pain.  — Jim Larsen

Enjoy these tarot card books by Jim Larsen

Pieces of You Tarot

What’s Tarot Got To Do With It?

Double Oh Fool Guide to Tarot Mastery

Enoy the Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life Books

Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 1
Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 2
Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 3
Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 4

Excuses are for the inadequate

Don’t make excuses about why you are not living as successfully as you wish you were. Successful people don’t do that. We visualize what we want to achieve, what we want to be. Then we work towards making that a reality. But what happens is, challenges come our way. We have setbacks. Things hinder us. We get blocked. An unsuccessful person will throw their hands in the air in defeat and say, “It can’t be done.” A successful person, however, will acclimate these setbacks into their overall view and plan and find a suitable alternative and adjustment. They will use them as opportunities to use their creativity to find ways around these obstacles. Success, in a lot of ways, is defined by one’s ability to find solutions to the problems that get in the way of the achievement of our goals without resorting to assigning an excuse to why it cannot be done.

Accept the possibility of failure

One thing that people do is, they use excuses as shields against feelings of inadequacy. People have an idea of what they want to achieve but do not feel as though they have what it takes to do it. They assume they will fail, so rather than set themselves up for a failure, they find the easiest out they can find and they make an excuse. Successful people don’t get that way by looking for these easy outs for a risky venture. They become successful by accepting the possibility of failure and by working hard to prevent it. If they looked for excuses, they would not allow for the possibility of success. Imagine and visualize what it means to you to be successful, then find ways around the obstacles and blocks that stand in your way of it. –Jim Larsen

Sometimes your light is too bright for them

Sometimes the jealousies of others can cause you to live smaller than you deserve to live. When you are simply doing the things you do, being the person you are meant to be, and shining your light to the world as it is meant to shine, they become jealous because they do not fully appreciate their own positive qualities and cannot get past this comparison that they have with you.

They put you down to feel better about their selves

This triggers them and they lash out at you, trying as they can to keep you down and to dim your light, so they feel better about themselves by comparison. This creates an unhealthy competition that you did not initiate, ask for, or have any desire to participate in. This creates an inharmonious atmosphere, perhaps one of down-right hostility. Because of this, perhaps you have to live less than you otherwise would, shrink down and become smaller in order to maintain peace. You don’t want to trigger this other person, so you do not shine your light quite as brightly as you otherwise would.

You are not meant to live in a box

This isn’t fair to you. It isn’t fair to anybody who may benefit from what you offer to the world through your light and your brilliance, either. So the thing to do is to remind yourself that you are on this earth to radiate your brilliance. You are on the earth to be a large being. Being made small to live in a box to placate this other person does absolutely nobody any good. All that does is placate the ego of that person who feels threatened by you. You will not be doing anybody any favors that way.

Force them out of their comfort zone

The thing to do is keep in mind this person is not in charge of what you do to be the best person you that you are on this earth to be. You have to accept the fact that they will attack, belittle, and try to keep you in your place- but remember- this place they are trying to keep you in is arbitrary and has meaning only to them. It exists only within the realms of their comfort zone. Don’t let that slow you down or diminish you. Force them out of their comfort zone by simply being you.

Let them adjust to you

Be mindful not to attack or belittle them. If you have criticism for them, be sure to phrase it such that it cannot be interpreted as an insult or attack, for they will probably look for anything at all to support their notions of you, no matter what. Do not let the pettiness or jealousies from others keep you from being who and what you are on this planet to be. You be you and let others adjust to that. You owe it to the world to do so. –Jim Larsen

Enjoy these tarot card books by Jim Larsen

Pieces of You Tarot

What’s Tarot Got To Do With It?

Double Oh Fool Guide to Tarot Mastery

Enoy the Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life Books

Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 1
Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 2
Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 3
Knowings From The Silence: Simple Wisdom For an Enlightened Life, vol. 4

Don’t let circumstanced dictate your success

Excuses separates unsuccessful people from successful people. Unsuccessful people make them. Successful people do not.

Excuses separate the strong from the weak. Don’t let circumstances dictate your success or failure. If you can’t change your circumstances, live with them. Acclimate yourself to them if they are sudden or unexpected. Never make excuses why you can’t be the best you know that you are capable of being. If it can’t be changed, either work it in or work around it. If your toe is amputated, be the best you can be without that toe. If your arm was amputated, be the best you can be as an arm amputee. If your spouse walks out on you and leaves you alone, be the best you can be as somebody whose spouse walked out on them.

Don’t make excuses about why you are not living as successfully as you wish you were. Successful people don’t do that. We visualize what we want to achieve, what we want to be. Then we work towards making that a reality. But what happens is, challenges come our way. We have setbacks. Things hinder us. We get blocked.

An unsuccessful person will throw their hands in the air in defeat and say, “It can’t be done.” A successful person, however, will acclimate these setbacks into their overall view and plan and find a suitable alternative and adjustment. They will use them as opportunities to use their creativity to find ways around these obstacles. Success, in a lot of ways, is defined by one’s ability to find solutions to the problems that get in the way of the achievement of our goals without resorting to assigning an excuse to why it cannot be done.

When the going gets tough and obstacles are in your path, don’t view them as the end of the road. View them instead as opportunities to e innovative and creative as you find a way around them to the success you are striving for. — Jim Larsen